“Papunta ka pa lang pabalik na ako” (You are still going there while I am already back)
A common local saying to denote the wisdom of the elders in comparison to the younger ones. A common phrase used by parents to emphasize their wisdom in comparison to their child’s.
Throughout my life I’ve encountered bigots, indoctrinated elders. I hate to say this but age does not directly guarantee wisdom nor correctness. To deem authority from such inadequacy is rather shallow.
I have been surrounded with elder figures who thinks patriarchy is the norm in a way that its becoming sexist, discriminating and degrading the opposite sex over ideologies — unquestioned beliefs that were subconsciously programmed from the environment and setting we grew up with. Childhood is one fragile, unguarded phase, for children’s minds are a blank canvas, innocent to the ways of the world. Have you ever questioned any of your ideologies? They are personal beliefs outside the realm of science because you cannot establish that the Earth is the center of our solar system, and Jupiter is our moon.
What is the rightful and correct religion? What is the reality of life? Sometimes we get accustomed to our own world, perhaps even to our suffering, that we fail to see other’s.
Some elder figures like to think of their views and beliefs as the ultimate truth, when most likely they are rather an angle in approaching a concept or a situation. When their beliefs are the product of interaction with their peers and figures on their environment and its internalization. When they could have been shaped by the media they are constantly exposed to. When their beliefs are shaped by their own experience, and are merely just perceptions.
True wisdom is looking beyond your own lenses, beyond your own expiriences, beyond your own beliefs – and considering other options in approaching a concept, situation, action and decision. It is the essence of empathy. Expand your thinking and break free from the limits of your own lens. This is true wisdom.